Frankly speaking, it is very hard for me to start my so-called diary writing today. I feel so emotional and whenever he hugs me, my tears rolling down my cheek. Even when I type this post now, I can feel the drizzling tears on my cheek. I am very lucky for he is here with me.
Misunderstanding in a relationship is not a new issue in one marriage. No matter how perfect is your marriage, there will be times where you and your partner may come to some misunderstanding. Be it due to financial, social life or jealousy. Undeniable misunderstanding. Everyone hopes not to have this misunderstanding in his or her marriage as it influences the feeling and emotion. But, we are only flesh and blood. Misunderstanding in a marriage is part and parcel of the life. It is an experience from an experiment! Yes, an experiment. I feel it is an experiment especially in the early years of the marriage. This is the stage where both of the partner start to show the true colors of each other. The true colors here do not mean something negative, you may look at the colors positively. So each one of us does have the true colors in our self. It is only the matter of what colors that you have in you and how the colors are significant to you.
Of ten months becoming husband and wife, I slightly realized that marriage is a tough and challenging task for both of us. But, do not misunderstood my statement here! What i mean with challenging is when we have our own true colors and we have to adapt ourself with that colour so that misunderstanding can be avoided. It's not easy but this is what marriage reality offers us as husband and wife.
Forgive and forget are very important in dealing with misunderstanding in our marriage. Learning to forgive is not easy as we are born with ego. Some people say that ego is our pride.No matter what the definition is, acquiring the to-forgive skill is very vital in a relationship. To forgive is when you have to say sorry and feel sorry at the same time. We can't forgive by saying it only - merely saying it in order to let people know that you are kind for you have forgiven someone. Sometime we could not make our sincere sorry because we don't want the matter to get worse. But this is not forgiving. The recurrence of misunderstanding is at a high possibility when we forgive by mouth only and not from the heart. To feel sorry is when you have to regret with all your wrongdoings towards someone. Next is to forget. People say that what ever moments you have experienced, they will be your living memory.
